WHY DO YOU NEED US
If you are one of the ever-growing group of men who are sick of the single scene back home and the overbearing self centered western women. Then you have come to the right place. You may think that you can simply come to Thailand and meet someone as you would back home.
This however is not possible unless you want to pick up a girl in a bar.
Some bar girls are indeed very nice ladies but unfortunately they are there, simply to make money and most are not at all interested in forming a meaningful relationship.
It is considered impolite and rude imply to strike up a conversation with a lady, so here is where we come in.
We bridge that cultural gap for you so that you can meet the girl of your dreams
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SUPPORTING YOUR WIFE EXTENDED FAMILY
Please consider that most of these girls are from poor backgrounds but are helping their parents or younger brothers and sisters. They would like to be able to end a few thousand Baht back home per month to help their families. Link to Currency Convention
Most of the ladies want to work when they settle and don’t expect you to do this but prefer to send money back themselves. In my opinion they should be admired for this, in our Western culture all too often we forget our aged parents.
So please don’t be alarmed by this after all it is only a small amount. |
THE AGE DIFFERENCE
This is a difficult one not easy to answer for some ladies this is an issue and for other it is not.
I would say normally a 15-20 year gap is considered acceptable. Thai women in general prefer an older man as he is more secure more likely to remain Faithfull and not wonder too much. |
WHY DO THAI WOMEN PREFER FOREIGN MEN
Firstly, I must answer the obvious question “They marry for money?”
Some do yes, as do a lot of Western women. So no difference there, although the Western woman would have you believe different.
A lot of Thai men (NOT ALL) tend to stray while in a relationship, there are more women in Thailand than men. A Thai woman is considered to be over the hill at aged 30 and no longer attractive to Thai men as they prefer younger girls.
Thai women see how western men treat their wife and girlfriends and of course they would like the same. They consider Western men more Faithfull honest and reliable.
Thai women do not leave Thailand simply for a better more comfortable life; many would prefer to stay home here in Thailand if their husbands would join them here.
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CAN THE GIRLS SPEAK ENGLISH
Yes some can, but most will speak only a little.
We can however enroll your chosen lady in to English Speaking lessons (At your Expense).
This will not be expensive and if your lady can speak English it will go better for her at her interview.
We will of course translate your letters and emails for you while you are back in your home country. |
HOW LONG SHOULD I PLAN TO STAY
On your first trip plan to stay 2 or 3 weeks during which time you can meet your chosen ladies. Then you return home for 3 to 4 months continue corresponding via telephone and letter.
Then when you are ready to return, come back for 3 weeks in order to get married and prepare paperwork for your wife’s settlement visa. |
CUSTOMS/CULTURE
ABOUT THAI LADIES AND THAI CUSTOMS
We hope this information will help you understand our customs
It is normal to have both good and bad in all societies in the world. Most nice Thai ladies have been taught to be faithful, sincere, grateful, obedient, and instructed in the skills and duties to please a man, keep him content and how to famish him a comfortable home.
Every society has its own traditions, customs, culture, beliefs and rules. This causes the people of one society to be different in character and personality from those of others. We furnish this information so you will know Thai ladies better by learning the traditional and social environment in which they are brought up.
One of the first and most important lessons a boy or girl learns in Thai society is to respect their parents as the most sacred people in their lives. These teachings result from a Thai traditional thought, that parents are responsible for bringing them into this world. Those children should be grateful to their parents and always obey them. To break this rule and make parents unhappy and miserable is regarded as very bad and even sinful behavior. Being taught in Thai way since childhood, they don’t feel uncomfortable being obedient to their parents when they grow up, unless there is a serious problem involved.
While boys are sometimes given a chance to argue or negotiate with their parents for they are expected to become the leader of a family in the future, a girl is treated more strictly and is required to conform to the rule. Thai girls consequently almost always act as followers unconsciously. It’s not strange at all that many Thai women are willing to follow better than lead both in marriage and social life. For Thais, a wife is compared to a hind leg of an elephant while a husband, to its front leg. Thais mean that a wife should follow her husband’s decision. Nowadays, we have many educated Thai women and many of them are accepted into the workplace in what was once thought to be only a man’s position, such as a director of a company or school, member of parliament, ..Etc. Thai women can also give opinions, an idea or can be consultants for their husbands both in good and bad times.
“Kunla Satri” is a Thai word used to call a girl who behaves well and has a pleasant manner in the Thai style. According to its definition, a Kunla Satri needs to be polite in every situation.
Thai people give a lot of importance to their reputation, especially that of their families. If someone in a Thai family behaves badly, it is considered that his/her actions not only bring a bad reputation to him or herself but also to his/her family. It is out of this consideration, besides the reason of love, that they always give close attention to the behavior of their children.
Thais have a very strict custom that a woman must keep her virginity until the day she gets married and she must be faithful and respect her husband and will never have other men in her life after she is married. Most Thai women are still conservative, which is contrary to the image of Thai women, which many foreign visitors to Thailand may have --the image of easy virtue. In fact, only some girls are forced to become prostitutes for economic reasons and the Thai government is earnestly trying to solve this problem.
As mentioned above, nowadays Thai people are being influenced by westernization. Thai ladies have become more independent, and more confident in making their own decisions. They still do not forget beliefs and customs embedded in their minds. Most of them know who they are and what they are expected to be and to do, so they can bring happiness to their lives and their lifetime partners. (see marriage section)
We would strongly recommend that if you are serious about finding a Thai lady to be your life partner, these websites will provide a detailed explanation of Thai culture & etiquette.
Then visit these websites
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www.thailandfever.com |
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DOWRY
Usually you will give your wife parents a dowry at approx 100,000 Baht [LINK TO CURRENCY CONVERTOR]
This is not a large amount of money especially when you consider how much a western marriage can cost you. The honeymoon alone would cost more than this and of course you are already in a beautiful country to enjoy your honeymoon. |
VISA ISSUES
Most embassies will ask as the following when your wife applies for a settlement VISA to you home country.
- You must show you have a regular job/ show at least 3 months pay slips or be off independent means.
- You must have your own home or at least a 6 months tenancy agreement.
- You must show correspondence between you and your wife, so keep all letters and envelopes and telephone bills showing call to Thailand. Normally emails are not considered as proof.
- As many pictures of you and your wife as you can get, at her home village, with her family, on your honeymoon etc.
- Your wife will need to be able to answer questions about you and your family, where you live, what you do etc. We will teach her all about the interview.
- If your wife can learn some English that would be excellent, it would show she has made some effort.
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MARRIAGE
Here in Thailand Marriage is in two stages. Firstly, the Buddhist ceremony back in your girls home village, they can be as simple as elaborate as you like.
Here your lady will show you off to her friends and family, there will be singing dancing and some drinking.
Don’t be too tight with money here as it looks bad as your wife (she will lose face) see customs section
The legal marriage is performed in a local government office and is a simple cheap and easy affair (PLEASE NOTE) it is this marriage that is the legal one and the marriage document you get here is the one required for your wife visa. |
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